Learning 5 Key Skills

The VFWC provides services based on the FOCUS (Families OverComing Under Stress) model. In this model, families and couples develop a shared understanding of how their own experiences in the military (deployment, injuries, relocation) and following military service (civilian jobs, moving, family roles). FOCUS explores the way challenges and successes create a unique story that affects the way each person handles future challenges and obstacles.

Emotional Regulation

Family members and couples learn to better understand their emotions and a common emotional language to make it easier to communicate with one another. Parents learn skills to help them identify emotional reactions their children might have, such as being worried or sad.


Family members and couples learn to actively listen and respond to one another’s concerns. They learn how to express feelings, talk to each other and support each other.

Goal Setting

Families and couples learn how to set and take steps towards achievable goals. Parents learn to work better as a team in parenting their children during the transition to civilian life.

Problem Solving

Families learn how to clearly define problems and implement effective solutions, as well as ways to handle day-to-day challenges, while recognizing and building upon their existing strengths.

Managing Trauma and Stress Reminders

Family members and couples learn how to develop a plan together to effectively deal with stress and trauma.